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Change the Channel by Cory Nickols

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​According to a recent study put out by Queens University in Canada, the average person has 6,200 thoughts per day. That’s a new thought every 13.9 seconds. Our brains are constantly downloading information from work, online platforms, newspaper ads, billboards, our smartphones, tablets and interactions with others. We even have our own internal thoughts and dialogues speaking to us. All of these lines of communication are influencing us whether we realize it or not.  That’s why it’s so important for us to take inventory of what we are thinking about and what we grant access into our hearts.

The Bible says, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he…” (Proverbs 23:7a NLT). We become what we think on. In other words, every thought we allow to formulate and take root in our hearts will eventually lead to actions, and our actions will chart the course of our lives and destiny. That’s why God wants us to protect what comes into our spirit. In Proverbs 4:24 NIV it says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Job, a godly man mentioned in Scripture, knew this. He stated, “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.”

Why? Because he knew that if he allowed those images to take hold of him, they would eventually affect him in a negative way. He was wise enough to heed godly wisdom. The Apostle Paul recognized this too. He exhorts us with this passage of Scripture,
“Finally, believers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable and worthy of respect, whatever is right and confirmed by God’s word, whatever is pure and wholesome, whatever is lovely and brings peace, whatever is admirable and of good repute; if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think continually on these things [center your mind on them, and implant them in your heart]” (Philippians 4:8 AMP)

What we allow into our spirits or our inner beings will affect us for good or bad. If we consume inappropriate information whether visually or through our ears, it will eventually influence our behavior and actions. So, what do you do when you are faced with negative images or thoughts that bombard your mind and heart? You change the channel.

Have you ever channel surfed before? It’s when you look for something good to watch on TV and you keep switching the channel until you find a program worth watching. If you happen to come across something inappropriate or not worth watching, you simply flip the channel and keep going. In the same way, when negative imagery and thoughts try to settle in our hearts, whether from the enemy or from our own carnal desires that rise up from within us, we don’t have to just sit there and consume it. We can actually on purpose switch the channel and dwell on something that is good, pleasing and wholesome. For instance, a thought of lust may pop into your mind. You don't have to let it stay there and grow.  Instead, you can change the channel. Or maybe a desire to hold a grudge against a family member who wronged you fights to grab a hold of your heart. You can tell your flesh and the devil, "Not today!" Change the channel to She is forgiven. Or I'm not going to keep any record of wrong. Or I will pray for my enemies. Maybe insecurities try to rise up on the inside of you and you feel inferior to those around you. Don't take the bait. Switch the channel to You are fearfully and wonderfully made!

Can you see why it’s so important to spend time with God in prayer and in reading the Bible? God will help us recognize truth from lies and give us the power to choose the right path. King David said, “I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you” (Psalm 119:11 NIV). He chose to spend time getting God’s word deep down on the inside of him so that he would recognize any wayward path.

God said to Joshua as he was getting ready to lead His people into the Promise Land, “Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it.” God was compelling Joshua and His people to remember His precepts and laws because they were about to go into a land that had foreign customs and false gods that had the potential of polluting their minds and taking them far away from God.

We are encouraged as New Testament Believers to put on the full armor of God to protect ourselves against the lies of the enemy and external influences. The breastplate of righteousness guards our heart and the helmet of salvation protects our mind. In addition, the shield of faith extinguishes all the flaming arrows of the devil and his schemes.

As you go about your week, ask God to help you recognize the lies of the enemy, the negative influences of the world or even your own fleshly nature that so often bombards your mind and heart. Ask Him to help you quickly change the channel and begin dwelling on truth that will set you free. Our spiritual weapons are powerful in God for the destruction of strongholds, which are wrong patterns of thinking that keep us from experiencing God’s best. One last thing: Don't get discouraged if it takes some time to develop positive ways of thinking. You've probably had plenty of practice with wrong thinking patterns. Continue to cooperate with the Holy Spirit, and if you fall down, own it, receive God’s mercy and get back up. God is with you to help you overcome every battle in your mind.
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​About Cory Nickols
Cory Nickols is communicator of the gospel of Jesus Christ and a writer. His passion is to help people get unstuck in life. Through the pain and difficulties of his childhood, adolescences, and college years, Cory came to a breaking point. It was at this rock-bottom moment that he encountered the Living Christ and from that moment forward, Cory’s life was radically different. As God walked with him through his own healing journey, God impressed upon his heart to launch Cory Nickols Ministries, a teaching ministry that helps people know God, find freedom and discover their God-given purpose.
 
In addition, Cory works for Destiny Rescue, an international Christian nonprofit organization that rescues children from sexual exploitation and human trafficking and helps them stay free. In his current role, he travels throughout the United States inspiring God’s people to rescue and restore children trapped in sexual slavery. (www.destinyrescue.org)
 
Cory is a single, godly man and his desire is to be married one day. He understands the pressures and challenges other singles face in our present day and wants to help them live out their best life now on the way to where God is taking them.

Are You Solving the Right Problem? by Cheryl Scanlan
Not pausing to ask that question could actually be creating more problems for you as a leader.

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5 Ways To Press On After Failure
Posted in Building Character, Life Lessons, Personal Time on October 8, 2021 by Shelley Pulliam
Reposted with permission, Oct 28th, 2021.
In the 1929 Rose Bowl, Georgia Tech played the University of California. Toward the end of the first half, UC defensive player Roy Riegels recovered a fumble but was disoriented and began to run the wrong direction for 65 yards. His own teammate chased and stopped him just before he scored for the other team. At half time, all Roy could do was hide in the corner with a blanket over him and cry. He was embarrassed and couldn’t imagine returning to the field and facing the fans or his fellow teammates. His coach put a hand on his shoulder and told him, “You are playing. Get up and go back out there. The game is only half over.” People remarked that they’ve never watched someone play football as hard as Roy did that second half.
There are moments in our life where we’ve all experienced the disappointment or pain from our poor choices or things we’ve done. Maybe we pursued our dreams, but they now lay shattered on the floor. When we mess up it’s hard to forgive ourselves and overcome the guilt or face the ones our actions impacted. 
Many times we hold ourselves hostage as blunders continually replay in our minds. I love the quote by Charles Kettering: “You may not be able to reclaim the loss, undo the damage, or reverse the consequences, but you can make a new start—wiser, more sensitive, renewed by the Holy Spirit, and more determined to do right.” How beneficial if we could learn to cast off the mistake and begin anew.
Probably the biggest known failure in the Bible is attributed to Peter. The disciple who emphatically exclaimed to Jesus that he would follow him anywhere, even to death, is the same man who denied him three times around a fire on the night of Jesus’ arrest. Peter could have abandoned his faith and lived a life of regret and sorrow, but our gracious God who is quick to forgive restored him. Peter chose to not let that one night define him and became a leader that changed the world. 
The difference is how we perceive ourselves. If you fail, admit you failed, but don’t classify yourself as a failure. It is not who you are. If Roy would have stayed hunkered in that locker room, he would have been remembered as the guy who ran the wrong way and gave up.  But he received encouragement from his coach and the crowd witnessed Roy’s second half play and an example of how to overcome failure.
What can be implemented to encourage you to press on:
1. Find someone who can speak the truth to you like Roy’s coach.
2. Write down lessons learned from the experience.
3. Recognize any negative, defeating thoughts and replace them with the truth of God’s Word.
4. Decide the first step to take to get you moving forward.
5. Pray and listen to where God leads you.
Remember, the game is only half over. 
 
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Scanlan
About Cheryl Scanlan
Cheryl Scanlan, MCC, CMCC, BCC is president of C3Advantage. She has worked with CEOs that are in Fortune 100 through next generation small business owners. Having also run a multi-million dollar firm in New York, Cheryl knows the importance of business goals and the impact of teams. Cheryl's thought partnering method helps leaders see clearly what is fuzzy, articulate what is currently unintelligible, and generate coherent and executable strategy.
cheryl@cherylscanlan.com
www.CherylScanlan.com


Kathy and I have had the pleasure of working with Kris of The Single Network Ministries at several events over the past three years. We always look forward to her insight and creative ways to connect with her audience sharing the Word of God with encouragement, humor and just being real. You will want to catch her for sure the next time she is in your area. Her sense of humor is a hoot and infectious.
—Kathy and Klay Watson,  Dating His Way Ministries

Leadership, General

  • Solving a Problem by Cheryl Scanlan
  • The E Word: Entitlement by Cheryl Scanlan
  • Synchronize vs. Strategic:
    The Power of Going Slow to go Fast
     
    by Cheryl Scanlan
  • Hindsight is 20/20 Until it Isn't by Cheryl Scanlan
  • Voices by Cheryl Scanlan
  • Leadership Video by Cheryl Scanlan
  • Can Your Dream During COVID? by Cheryl Scanlan
  • Why Mentor a Fatherless Boy by Matt Haviland
  • The COVID-19 Portal by Cheryl Scanlan
  • The Psychology of Crisis by Dr. Henry Cloud
  • 8 Ways to Reach Singles Adults Through Your Church by Chuck Lawless
  • 6 Characteristics of a Healthy Singles Ministry by Alex Florea/Boundless.org
  • The Marks of a Spiritual Leader by John Piper
  • Toxic Environments by Cheryl Scanlan
  • Give Your Singles Space to Mingle by Justin Megna, Church Leaders, doc
  • 4 Critical Reminders about Singles in Your Congregation by Lifeway
  • Where do Singles Fit in the Church Family by Rick Hughes
  • Interference by Cheryl Scanlan​
  • Prove It To Me by Cheryl Scanlan​​
  • I'm Confused by Cheryl Scanlan
  • Singleness and New Converts by Tim Laitinen
  • Lost Identity by Holy Crain
  • Conflict Overview by Lisa Jackson
  • Person, Project or Problem by Cheryl Scanlan
  • The Value in Waiting After a Relationship Breakup by Vicki L. Olton
  • ​Influence and Authority by Cheryl Scanlan
  • You Are Here by Cheryl Scanlan
  • Acceptance with Joy by Pastor Jim Bouck
  • Enjoy Today by Pastor Jim Bouck
  • C3 Advantage Leadership Insights by Cheryl Scanlan
  • ​Leadership Development, Pastor Andy Jennings
  • Leadership Notebook by Pastor Don Munton
  • ​How To Solve the Problem of Single People in the Church by Vicky Legge, His Heart Ministry Training, AU
  • 10 Things I Learned About Christians When My Blog Post Went VIRAL  
  • 59% of Millennials Raised in Church Have Dropped Out--And They're Trying to Tell Us Why by Faith Hit
  • 3 Ways Leaders Cultivate Stability During Change by Cheryl Scanlan
  • Same-Sex Attraction/The Church by Brad Hambrick
  • 18 Myths Singles Believe by Perry Noble
  • Grace Place Celebrates 2nd Anniversary by Suzanne Adams, Singles Director
  • Singles Ministry UK by Chris Kelly
  • Top 10 Ways Churches Drive Away Their First Time Guest by Thom Rainer
  • Why Do Churches Treat Singleness Like a Problem? by Rachel Karmen
  • It's All In A Name by Keith Lowry, BGCT
  • What I Wish Pastors Knew About Divorce by Laura Petherbridge
  • My Step Child Hates Me by Laura Petherbridge
  • 10 Things All Singles Need to Know by Pastor James Patterson
  • What if You Had Someone in your ministry with ADD? by Allen White
  • 17 Tough Love Principles for Single and Married Couples by Dr. Dobson, Focus on the Family
  • 8 Values of Teamwork that Keep the Church Healthy by Rick Warren
  • Honoring Volunteers by Jennifer Maggio
  • Small Group Connection Idea
  • The Importances of Planning MInistry by Jennifer Maggio, The Life of a Single Mom
  • 10 Tips for Ministering to Singles by Dianne Davis​
  • Singles Ministry: The Missing Link in Family Ministry by Pastor Jesse Rincones
  • Marriage: Optional - Disposable – Re-definable? by Dennis Franck
  • Are Single People the Lepers of Today's Church by Gina Delfanzo
  • Why Singles Belong in Church Leadership by Lore Ferguson
  • Adult Children of Divorce by Linda Ransom Jacobs
  • The Fallacy of Singles Ministry and the Beauty of Biblical Obedience by John Gunter
  • Reaching Single Adults in a Married World by Dennis Franck, National Singles Director, Assemblies of God
  • A Single Friendly Church: 12 Steps to Growth by Christian Singles Mix, London, UK
  • Why Singles MInistry Isn't Growing by Bob Pierson
  • Never Start a Ministry (even Singles) Without a Minister
  • by Rick Warren
  • Pastors.com
  • Launching a Singles Ministry by Christianity Today 
  • Why Singles Ministry Isn't Easy by Tim Laitinen, Published by Crosswalk.com
  • 8 Principles for a Singles Ministry by Brian Mavis
  • What Happened to Singles Ministry by Adam Stadtmiller
  • Christianity Today
  • Numerous dating/relationship articles and video's by Brian Kluth
  • Singles in the Church: The Ghost Demographic by Tim Laitinen Crosswalk.com Contributing Writer
  • 10 Commandments of Dating
  • Being a Visionary for Your Ministry by Kevin Miller
  • 18 Myths Singles Believe by Pastor Perry Noble, NewSpring Church, Ocala, FL
  • 8 Single Principles for Starting a Singles Ministry by Brian Mavis, ChurchLeaders.com (doc)
  • The Great Disappearing Singles Ministry  by Tim Laitinen
  • Crosswalk Online Magazine (original publisher)
  • Churches Supporting the Unmarried by Rodd Kerr
  • Salisbury Post, Salisbury, NC
  • How to Serve the "Singles" by Carolyn McCulley (doc)
  • Why Pastors Fall into Sin by Jack Frost
  • Gays, Christians and Holiness by Tim Laitinen, Crosswalk.com Contributing Writer
  • Whither the Single Male Missionary? Tim Laitinen, Crosswalk.com Contributing Writer
  • SAM Long-term Master Plan Q&A by Bobb Biehl and Joseph Northcut
  • Steps to Financial Freedom for Single Parent by Lynne Thompson via Focus on the Family​
  • What Does a Married Pastor Have to Say to Singles? by Andrew Farmer, Sovereign Grace Ministries
  • Singles in the Church by Tim Laitenen
  • Young and Singles Ministry Articles by several authors in the Enrich Journal by National AOG
  • For Single Men and Women by John Piper
  • Alone in the Pew by Christianity Today
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Personal Growth

  • 5 Ways to Press On After Failure by Shelley Pullium
  • Not This Time Devil by Michelle Eigemann
  • Goliath Will Fall by Michelle Eigemann
  • Prone to Wander by Michelle Eigemann
  • Now We Wait by Michelle Eigemann
  • Help my Unbelief by Michelle Eigemann
  • Wounded Warrior by Michelle Eigemann
  • Slipped Through My Hands by Michelle Eigemann
  • Searching by Michelle Eigemann
  • Who Do You Say I Am by Michelle Eigemann
  • A Journal We Will Never Forget by Braxton Critcher
  • Don't Get Through Singleness, Leverage It by Pastor J.D. Greer
  • Image Bearer by Michelle Eigemann
  • So You Think You Should Date by Damien Nash
  • How Christian Traits Affect Your Marriage by Nate Stevens
  • Caring for your Aging Parent by Rozanne Banicki
  • The Dating Games by Marshal Segel
  • Become the Healthiest Version of You by Cory Nichols
  • The Difference Between Stolen and Persuaded Hearts by Nate Stevens
  • Freedom in Christ by Cheryl Scanlan
  • 3 Decisions You Make to Become the Right One by Damien Nash​
  • Dating Advice for the 21st Century by Damien Nash
  • Red Flags in Dating Relationships by Ernest Jefferson, Jr.
  • Identity Theft by Lisa Jackson
  • Dating 101 by Lisa Jackson
  • Does Dating Prepare You Marriage or Divorce by Marshall Segal
  • Those Prayers He Doesn't Seem to Answer by Lisa Jackson
  • Encouragement by Lisa Jackson
  • Lonely or Empty? by Cindi Nobel
  • Anticipation by Lisa Jackson
  • You're The Mirror on the Wall by Cindi Nobel
  • Survival Tips by Laura Petheridge (via DivorceCare.org)
  • Enjoy Today by Pastor Jim Bouck
  • 10 Essentials for Christian Dating by Singles Pastor Jim Bouck
  • Singles & Self Care​ by Vicky Legge, His Heart Ministry Training, AU
  • ​10 ways to alienate and drive divorced/single again people away from your church​ by Vicky Legge, His Heart Ministry Training, AU
  • Financial Resources: Action Points, Steve Repak
  • I Have Never by Sharyn Kopf​
  • Live Out Loud Discipleship Series by Pastor Lester Rector, Faith Assemblies of God, Orlando, FL
  • The Place Where Pain Heals by Kevin DeVries
  • Date Night with Jesus by Andrea Best
  • Five Confessions of a Newly Married Wife by Ruth Clemence
  • Letting God of the Past by Melissa O'Connor
  • I Finally Got the Ring by Amanda Martin
  • Where are All the Men by Tim Laitinen
  • What is Anxiety? by Eddie Walker
  • Bruise Weeds and Weak Wicks by Tim Laitinen
  • How to Find the Right Mate by Lee Grady
  • Honor in the Friend Zone by Nate Stevens
  • Being Single on Valentines Day, posted by CBN.com
  • 9 Serious Questions Before You Get Married by Lee Grady
  • On Singleness: The Inclusive Love of God by Pastor Mark Comer
  • Do People See Jesus When They Look at Me by Nate Stevens
  • 7 Steps Towards Spiritual Fitness by Zane Reavis
  • Failure to Launch by Zane Reavis
  • Solving the Mystery of Marriage by Nate Stevens
  • Are you Important? by David Nobles, former singles pastor
  • Being Courageous in our Witness by Nate Stevens
  • Using Our Trials and Sufferings by Nate Stevens
  • What You Know and How You Know It by Nate Stevens
  • Trusting A Friend by Nate Stevens
  • Aging and Singleness by Margaret-Ann Howie
  • Desiring God, a ministry by John Piper
  • What to Look for in a Spiritual Mentor by Cliff Young, Crosswalk Contributing Writer 
  • Single in Christ: A Name Better Than Sons or Daughters Video/Outline by John Piper
  • Dying to Self by Author Unknown, Submitted by Dennis Franck
  • He Said-She Said: Stop Thinking About Finding a Mate by Laura MacCorkle and Cliff Young
  • The Challenges of Dating in Later Life by Shana Schutte
  • A View from the Cross-Road by Peggy Barnhill
  • Invisible Singles by David Briggs, Huffington Post Featured Writer
  • 7 Steps To Give For A Missions Presentation by Norm Howell
  • Forgiveness and Healing by Clayton Coates, Former Singles Pastor, Saddleback
  • An Unexpected Testimony by Pastor Mark Lindsay, Shadowbrook BC, Suwanee, GA
  • How to Recognize God's Voice by Pastor Kevin Club, Cape Carteret Baptist Church, Cape Carteret, NC
  • Tips for Publishing Your Own Work by Rich Hurst, McLean Bible Church
  • Lead a Life Worthy of Your Calling by Cliff Young
  • Maturity by Author Unknown, Submitted by Dennis Franck

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