Books/Bible Studies/Leadership Materials

Resource of the Month: Soularium by CRUI

Because pictures connect deeply with our emotions, they become a window into the soul, inviting meaningful conversations about life and God. Soularium provides 50 pictures and a few simple questions to help you explore the lives of those around you.
​
This updated version was created with students, for students. It features diverse, refreshed images and expanded topics—including family, dreams, and goals—that naturally open the door to deeper spiritual conversations.
​Order your copy here. 
Note: All of these books/resources were either read by Kris Swiatocho or other pastors/leaders before posting.
​
Building Leaders for your Singles Ministry including single parent, grief, divorce, young adult, etc.
• Leadership Curriculum by Kris Swiatocho [$59.99 doc (editable); 6 weeks)]
• Everyone Knows a Single Adult: The FAQS of Single Adult Ministry by Kris Swiatocho, Dennis Franck (New)
• 7 Reason's Your Church Needs More Men by Nate Blackaby
​• Single and The Church by Aukelien Van Abbema
• The Necessary Nine: ​Things Effective Pastors Do Differently by Bob Farr
• Sticky Teams by Larry Osborne
• Single Women: A Challenge to the Church by Kristin Aune
• How to Not Quit Your Ministry by Michael Cavanaugh
• An Ordinary Guy...With The Extraordinary God, by Dick Snavely
• The Single Adult Ministry How To Guide by Max Holt and Doug Stephens, Ebook (New)
• Outflow by Steve Sjogren
• Single Issue by Albert Y. Hsu
• Why Men Hate Going to Church by David Murrow
• Micro-Messaging by Stephen Young
• Reaching Boomers and Beyond by Amy Hanson
• Leadership Tools for those in Bereavement Ministry by Larry Michael
• How to Start a Single Mom's Ministry Kit by Jennifer Maggio
• College Ministry from Scratch by Chuck Bomar
• The Ways of the Alongsider by the Navigators
• Correspondance College Course on How to Start Singles Ministry by Dennis Franck
• Ten Stupid Things That Keep Churches from Growing by Geoff Surratt
• Spiritual Leadership by Henry and Richard Blackaby
• John C. Maxwell- Any book is great for leaders.
• Comforting the Bereaved: For Pastors and Others Who Minister by Warren W. Wiersbe, David W. Wiersbe
• Grief Care Kit for Pastors/Churches by Harold Ivan Smith

Bible Study/Sunday School Curriculum/Small Group
• Intentional Relationships for Singles 12-week Study by Kris Swiatocho and Dan Houk
• Intentional Friendship for Singles by Kris Swiatocho and Dan Houk
• The Power of Prayer by Stormie Omartian
• The Bible Recap by Tara Leigh Cobble
​• Singles & Relationships by Kris Swiatocho, Dick Purnell (downloadable small group outline)
• From the Manger to the Cross, The Women in Jesus's Life by Kris Swiatocho
• Jesus, Single Like Me by Kris Swiatocho, includes leadership guide, intro videos and study questions.
• Walk the Line by Kris Swiatocho
​• Relentless Love by Pastor Freddy Johnson
​• The Bible Recap by Tara-Leigh Cobble
• The Light FM Devotional Online Guide
• The Words of King Lemuel by James Daughtry
• Kingdom Single by Dr. Tony Evans
• How Much More by Lisa Harper
• Crown the Sword by Genna Stotts
• How to Pray by R A Torrey
​• If Not Now, When? by Fernando De Paula 
• 40 Verses to Ignite your Faith by Laurie Polich Short (Video/Book)
​• The Bible Project
• Young Adult Study by The Porches Jonathan Pokluda
​• Experiencing God by Henry Blackaby
• 2:7 Series for Discipleship by the Navigators
• Experiencing God for Young Adults by Henry Blackaby
• 20/30 Bible Study for Young Adults Faith by Clifton Guthrie and Barbara K Mittman 
• Living Single by Tony Evans
• When I Became a Man by James Daughtry
• Any book by David Platt
• 1 is a Whole Number by Robert Tauber
• Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss
• Any study by Beth Moore
• Having a Mary Spirit by Joanna Weaver
• Any study by Priscilla Shirer
• Crazy Love by Francis Chen (DVD's available)
• The Parable of Jesus Serendipity Bible Study
• Walk on Water by John Ortberg
• Lessons in Christian Singleness by Ernest Jefferson
• Single Identity by Ernest Jefferson
• Leading from your Strengths by John Trent, Rodney Cox
• Lady In Waiting by Debbie Jones, Jackie Kendall (Journal/ Study Guide Available)
• Divorce Care Bible Study
• Divorce Care for Kids Bible Study

Bible Study/Personal Devotion
• Jesus, Single Like Me by Kris Swiatocho, includes leadership guide, video intros and study questions.
• Singles & Relationships Devotional/31 Week Study by Kris Swiatocho and Dick Purnell
• From the Manger to the Cross, The  Women in Jesus's Life by Kris Swiatocho
• Party for One by Jo Beth Smith
• Single-Minded by Kate Wharton
• Fish Prison by Pastor Doug Dees
​• Single Serving by Tamera Gibbs
• Single and Happy by Gloria Godson
• Insightful Tips for the Unique Mature Single By Andrea Best
• Love Does by Bob Goff
• 1 is a Whole Number by Robert Tauber
• Random Thoughts: Get Real with God, Others, and Yourself: A Devotional for Young Adults by Steve Russo
• Single Supplement by Margaret Ann Howie
• The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson
• When God doesn't Answer Your Prayer by Jerry Sittser
• The Allure of Hope by Jan Meyers
• Crazy Love by Francis Chan (book/DVD)
• The Single Journey by Peter Nadeau
• Sacred Rhythms by Ruth Haley Barton
• 5 Languages of Apology by Gary Chapman
• Latte for One and Loving It by Tosha Williams, Melanie Dobson
• They Were Single Too: 8 Biblical Role Models by David Hoffeditz

Relationships (General)
• 5 Love Languages for Singles by Gary Chapmen
• Love Junkies by Christy Johnson (Book/DVD)
• Straight Talk to Christian Singles by Kevin Paterson
• Act Like Men by James MacDonald
• Safe People by Townsend and Cloud
• Lady In Waiting by Debbie Jones, Jackie Kendall (Journal/ Study Guide Available)

Relationships (Romantic/Dating)
• 31 Prayers for my Future Husband by Aaron and Jennifer Smith
• Intentional Relationships for Singles by Kris Swiatocho and Dan Houk
• Intentional Friendship for Singles by Kris Swiatocho and Dan Houk
• Single but in a Relationship with God by Gabrielle Santiago
• #CompletelyMarried by Kenady and Damien Nash
• Before You Plan Your Wedding, Plan Your Marriage by Dr. Greg an Erin Smalley
• Dating and the Single Parent by Ron Deal 
• The Sacred Search by Gary Thomas
• Help! I'm Really Single by Dr. Bobby Brewer
• Dare to Date by Aukelien van Abbema 
• When God Writes Your Love Story by Eric and Leslie Ludy
• The Right One by Frank Martin and Jimmy Evans
​• True Love Dates by Debra Fileta
• 131 Conversations for Dating Couples and 131 Conversations Before Marriage by Jed Jurchenko
​• Christian Dating Simplified by Aaron K. Torch
• Christian Dating: The Q and A Book by Rita Henderson
• Holding Hands, Holding Hearts by Richard and Sharon Philips
• Praying for your Future Husband by Robin Gunn and Tricia Boyer
• Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age Book by Ben Stuart 
• Symbis (online resource for pastors for counseling singles on marriage)
• How to Attract a Godly Husband by Emmanuela P. Rodenburg
• Faith for a Mate: How 3 Women Met Their Husbands by David King
• The Dna of Relationships by Gary Smalley
​• Dating, Sex and Jesus by Cathleen Olney
• #CompletelySingle: Learning How to Become the Right One Before Meeting the Right One by Damien K. H. Nash 
• Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption by Matt Chandler
• Insightful Tips For The Unique, Mature Single by Andrea Best
• How to Marry Contentment and Singleness by Bill D. Thrasher
• True Love Dates by Debra Fileta
• 10 Great Dates Before You Say "I Do" by David Arp
• The Waiting Room by TC Spellen
• Avoiding Mr. Wrong by Stephen Arterburn
• We're Just Friends and Other Dating Lies by Pastor Chuck Milian
• Undressed; The Naked Truth about Dating by Jason Illian
• Men Like Waffles..Women Like Spaghetti book and study guide by Bill & Pam Farell
• Love, Sex and Lasting Relationships by Chip Ingram
• Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs and Thomas Nelson
• Rating Your Dating While You are Waiting by Ed Young, Jr.
• Men Like Waffles..Women Like Spaghetti book and study guide by Bill & Pam Farell
• Finding A Lasting Love by Dick Purnell
• Relationship Regret by Dick Purnell
• How to get a date worth keeping by Henry Cloud
• What to Do Until Loves Finds You by Michelle McKinney Hammond
• The UnGuide to Dating by Camerin Courtney, Todd Hertz
• Dating with Pure Passion by Rob Eagar (DVD/Study Kit available)
• Should I Get Married by M. Blaine Smith
• Secrets of an Irresistible Woman by Michelle McKinney Hammond
• Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts by Dr. Les and Leslie Parrott
• Knight in Shining Armor by PB Wilson
• The Bare, Naked Truth by Bekah Hamrick Martin
• Choosing God's Best by Dr. Don Raunikar
• Settling for Less Than God's Best by Elsa Kok
• Any book by Les and Leslie Parrott
• Boundaries in Dating by Henry Cloud, John Townsend
• Should We Get Married by William P. Smith
• Watch and Pray: Red Flags in Christian Dating by Ernest Jefferson

Engagement
• Intentional Relationships for Singles by Kris Swiatocho and Dan Houk
• Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
• Before You Get Engaged by David Gudgel and Brent Gudgel
• Before You Say "I Do": A Marriage Preparation Manual for Couples by Norman Wright, Wes Roberts
• 101 Questions to Ask before You Get Engaged by H. Norman Wright
• No Longer Two: A Christian Guide for Engagement and Marriage by Brian and Barbara Edwards
• The Marriage You've Always Dreamed Of... - The Marriage Preparation Manual for Young Christian Women by Mary Taylor Williamson
• One Year Devotion for Couples by Bob and Cheryl Moeller
• Before You Plan Your Wedding, Plan Your Marriage by Dr. Greg an Erin Smalley

Divorce/Separation/Remarriage 
• The Remarriage Checkup by Ron L. Deal and David H. Olson
• Preparing to Blend by Ron L. Deal
• The 6 Hearts of Intimacy by Cheryl and Bob Moeller 
• 101 Tips for Smart Step Mom by Laura Petherbridge
• The Necessary Nine:  How to Stay Happily Married for Life by Dan Seaborn
• Gray Divorce by Steve Grissom
• The Smart Step-Family Marriage by Ron Deal
​• Suddenly Single by Kathey Batey
• Dating After Divorce by David and Lisa Frisbie
• Top 5 Books/Studies to read after you go through Divorce Recovery study
by Cloud and Townsend
1. How People Grow
2. Boundaries in general, dating, marriage again
3. Hiding From Love
4. Safe People
5. Changes that Heal
• Hope for New Relationships by Dr. Dennis Henderson 
• Dating a Widower by Abel Keogh
• Divorce and Remarriage by Dr. Tony Evans
• When "I Do" Becomes "I Don't" by Laura Petherbridge
• Divorce Care: Hope, Help and Healing During and After Your Divorce by Kathy Leonard
• Dare to Trust, Dare to Hope Again: Living With Losses of the Heart by Kari West
• Help for Parents of a Divorced Son or Daughter by Harold Ivan Smith
• Starting Over by Jayne Clark

Blended/Singles Parenting Families
• When Love Is Not Enough: From the Heart of a Foster Mom by Maurita McCorkle
• Daily Proverbs for Kids by Gloria Godson
• 101 Tips for the Smart StepMom by Laura Petherbridge
• Overwhelmed by Jennifer Maggio
• Blending Families by Jimmy Evans and Frank Martin
• Kids and the Single Mom by Jennifer Maggio
• The Smart Stepfamily Marriage: Keys to Success in the Blended Family by Ron L. Deal and David H. Olson
• Attract Families to Your Church and Keep Them Coming Back by Linda Jacobs
• 88 Daddy-Daughter Dates by Rob Teigen
​• Dating and The Single Parent by Ron Deal
• The Smart Step Mom by Laura Petheridge and Ron Deal
• The Smart Step Dad by Ron Deal
• Single Mom Resource Guide (All 50 States) by The Life of a Single Mom
• Single Mom's Toolbox by Pat Bishop
• Raising a Prince Without A King by LaVeda Jones
​• Living, Learning, Loving by Gail Showalter
• The Daddy Gap by Dawn Walker and Matt Haviland
• A Fathers Walk by Matt Haviland
• Loving Your Step Family by Dr. Don Partridge
• The Single Mom and Her Roller Coaster Emotions by Pam Kanaly
• Dating and the Single Parent by Ron Deal
• The Single Mom's Devotional: A Book of 52 Practical and Encouraging Devotions by Carol Finch
• Peace and the Single Mom by Jennifer Maggio, The Life of a  Single Mom
• The Single Dad's Survival Guide: How to Succeed as a One-Man Parenting Team - eBook by Michael A. Klumpp
• The Smart Step Family by Ron Deal
• Financial Relief for Single Parents: A Proven Plan for Achieving the Seemingly Impossible by Brenda Armstrong
• Dating and the Single Parent by Ron Deal
• Co-Parenting Works! Working Together to Help Your Children Thrive by Tammy Daughtry
• New Start for Singles Mom's Starter Kit by Diane Strack
• Parenting On Your Own by Lynda Hunter
• Your Step-family Standing Strong (CD's) by Ron Deal and Dennis Rainey
• Life in a Blender: Booklet for Teens before and after their parents remarry by Ron Deal
• My Mommy is Getting Married by Pam Chambers
• When Your Parent Remarries Late in Life: Making Peace with Your Adult Stepfamily by Terri P. Smith
• Resolving Conflict in the Blended Family by Tom Frydenger, Adrienne Frydenger
• The Smart Step-Mom by Laura Petherbridge
• From One Single Mother to Another: Heart-Lifting Encouragement and Practical Advice by Sandra P. Aldrich

Grief and Loss
• Caring for Widows: You and Your Church Can Make a Difference by Wesley M. Teterud
• Seasons of Tomorrow: The pain of loss and comfort of God by Tim Challies
• Experiencing Grief by H. Norman Wright
• Recovering Loss by H. Norman Wright
• Tough Times by Max Lucado
• Grace Disguised by Jerry Sisstler
• Hope for the Hurting by Tony Evans
​• You'll Get Through This by Max Lucado
• Grieving a Suicide by Albert Y Hsu
• Dating a Widower by Abel Keogh
​• Surviving the Holiday's While Grieving by Janet K. Johnson
• Comforting the Bereaved: For Pastors and Others Who Minister by Warren W. Wiersbe, David W. Wiersbe
• Griefshare: Bible study by Church Initiative
• Grieving the Death of a Mother by Harold Ivan Smith (Harold has a several books dealing with grief.)
• Experiencing Grief by H. Norman Wright

Cohabitating
• Living Together: Myths, Risks & Answers by Mike McManus, Harriett McManus, Chuck Colson
• The Ring Makes All the Difference: The Hidden Consequences of Cohabitation and the Strong Benefits of Marriage by Glenn T. Stanton

Counseling
• Intentional Relationships for Singles -12 Week Study that can be used for counseling
• Help for the Post-Abortion Woman by Teri K Reisser, Paul Reisser
• Life Recovery Bible
• The Emotionally Destructive Relationship by Leslie Vernick
• A Complete Guide to Crisis and Trauma by H. Norman Wright
• Boundaries by Henry Cloud
• Safe People by Cloud and Townsend
• Counseling and Homosexuality by Earl B. Wilson
• The Bondage Breaker by Neil Anderson
• Approval Addiction by Joyce Meyer
• Weight of Grace by Paula Neall Coleman (prefer small group study)
• Bod 4 God by Pastor Steve Reynolds (individual or small group)
• A Woman Who Hurts; A God Who Heals by Elsa Kok

Sex
• Sex and The Single Christian by Barry Colman
• The Virgin Monologues by Carrie Lloyd
​• What Are You Waiting For by Dannah Gresh
• Virginity: A positive approach to celebacy by Raniero Cantalamessa
• The Truth About Homosexuality by Bruce Smith, Jr. 
• Let's Talk About Sex and Relationships by Tania Vaughn
• Singled Out by Christine Colon & Bonnie Field
• Surfing for God Audio Book by Michale John Cusick
• Sex and The Single Purpose by Bob DeMoss
• Your Single Treasure by Rick Stedman
• The War Within by Robert Daniels
• Every Single Mans Battle (workbook) 
• Every Woman's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Shannon Ethridge
• Every Young Woman's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Shannon Ethridge
• No More Sheets: The Truth About Sex by Juanita Bynum

Finance
• 6 Week Money Challenge by Steve Repak
• Dollars & Uncommon Sense: Basic Training for Your Money Paperback by Steve Repak
• Every Single Cent by Larry Burkett and Brenda Armstrong - Guide/Bible study to help singles with budgeting.
• Financial Relief for Singles Parents by Brenda Armstrong - Guide to help single parents budget.
• The Everything Guide to Personal Finance for Single Mothers by Susan. Reynolds and Robert Bexton
• Anything by Dave Ramsey
• Money and Faith in Motion by ACCE - A great resource to manage, budget and use of your finances.

Discipleship
• Solarium by CRU
• NavPress (series of studies)
• Navigators
• Natural Discipleship App by Pastor Steve Harris (Download in App Store)
• Discipleship Library
• Kingdom Disciples by Tony Evans
• Discipleship by Tozer
• Lifeway Master Series for New Disciples 
• Discipleship Series by Lifeway

Building a Discipleship Ministry
• Lifeway
• Real Life Discipleship by Putman
• Online Resource

Single Life (Purpose, Contentment, Personal Walk)
• Insightful Tips for the Unique "Mature" Single by Andrea Best
• Out of the Dark by Mandisa
• The Meaning of Singleness by Dani Treweek
• Welcome to Adulting by JP Pokluda
• The Power and Purpose of Singleness by Michael Cavanaugh
• Living Whole Without Your Better Half by Wendy Widder
• God of the Romantique and Veiled Unto His Pleasure by Gary and Kim Elliot
• The Mark of a Man by Elisabeth Elliott
• Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul by John Eldredge
​• Redeeming Singleness by Barry Danylak
• Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Women's Soul by John and Staci Eldredge 
• Party of One by Joy Beth Smith
• Don't Let Someone Else Push Your Buttons by Pat Bishop
• DIS Connected: Why Men Are Unplugging In Your Church by Tim Truesdale
​• Single and Satisfied by Tony Evans (free ebook)
• Thrive: The Secret Life That God Intended by Lina AbuJama
• Living Whole Without a Better HalfBiblical Truth for the Single Life by Wendy Widder
• If Singleness Is a Gift, What's the Return Policy by Michelle McKinny Hammond, Holly VIrden
• Singled Out by Christine Colon & Bonnie Field
• Living Every Single Moment by Angela Payne
• Being Single and Satisfied by Tony Evans
• The 10 Best Decisions a Single Can Make by Bill Farrel
• Table for One by Camerin Courtney
• The Joy of Being Saved and Single by Lawrence Moore and Shelley Jones
• The Singles Christian Woman's Fight for Focus by Sherabim Allen
• Single Adults Want to Be the Church, Too by Britton Wood
• Common Mistakes Singles Make by Mary S. Whelchel
• For Single Men and Women by John Piper (online book)
• Redeeming Singleness by Barry Danylak
• The Single WomanLife, Love, and a Dash of Sassy by Mandy Hale
• God's Call to the Single Adult by Michael Cavanaugh
• Sassy, Single & Satisfied by Michelle McKinney Hammond
• Single and Loving It by Kate McVeigh
• Holy Me? The Single Adult's Guide to the Spiritual Journey by Harold Ivan Smith
• Living Whole With a Better Half by Wendy Widder
• Single but Not Alone by Jane Graver
• Singled Out For Him by Nancy Leigh DeMoss
• Singles at the Crossroads by Albert Y. Hsu
• Being Single in the Church Today by Philip Wilson
• Who Has Your Heart by Emily E. Ryan
• Live Like You Mean It by Kathy Troccoli