Articles by Kris Swiatocho, Director The Singles Network Ministries

Articles by Kris Swiatocho, Director

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Life is Meant to be Lived! 100+ Fun Things Singles Can Do—With Friends or On Their own

by Kris Swiatocho, Director, The Singles Network Ministries

One of the biggest myths about being single is that life is somehow "on hold" until you get married.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Jesus never promised us a spouse, but He did promise us an abundant life (John 10:10). That abundant life isn't reserved for married people. It belongs to every believer.
Unfortunately, many singles spend years waiting...

"When I get married, then I'll travel."
"When I meet someone, then I'll entertain."
"When I have a family, then life will really begin."

Don't wait.
Live now.
Enjoy now.
Serve now.
Laugh now.
Create memories now.

Some of the happiest people I know have learned to embrace this season rather than merely endure it.
Here are ideas to help you do exactly that.

Adventure & Travel
There is an entire world waiting to be explored.
Try:

Take a weekend road trip.
Visit every state park in your area.
Explore nearby waterfalls.
Tour historic towns.
Visit museums you've never seen.
Go to local festivals.
Attend county fairs.
Try geocaching.
Ride a scenic train.
Visit botanical gardens.
Go whale watching.
Take a cruise.
Visit a national park.
Explore small-town coffee shops.
Attend a hot air balloon festival.

Psalm 19:1
"The heavens declare the glory of God; the skies proclaim the work of His hands."
Sometimes worship begins with simply admiring God's creation.

Outdoor Adventures
Fresh air is good for both the body and soul.
Ideas include:

Hiking
Kayaking
Paddleboarding
Canoeing
Fishing
Camping
Picnic in the park
Frisbee golf
Pickleball
Tennis
Bike riding
Horseback riding
Ziplining
Rock climbing
Snow tubing
Skiing
Beach walks
Sunset watching
Stargazing

Learn Something New
Never stop growing.
Take a class on:

Photography
Painting
Pottery
Woodworking
Gardening
Cooking
Cake decorating
Foreign languages
Sign language
Dance lessons
Public speaking
Guitar
Piano
Writing
Graphic design
Bird watching

You never know where one new hobby may lead.

Have Friends Over
Hospitality doesn't require a spouse.
Invite people over for:

Taco night
Soup night
Breakfast for dinner
Game night
Movie marathon
Ice cream social
Chili cook-off
Dessert exchange
Christmas cookie decorating
Backyard bonfire
Grill out
Olympic games
Murder mystery dinner
Trivia night

Romans 12:13
"Share with the Lord's people who are in need. Practice hospitality."
Hospitality isn't about impressing people.
It's about welcoming them.

Serve Others
One of the quickest cures for loneliness is serving someone else.

Volunteer:

At your church
Food pantry
Animal shelter
Pregnancy center
Homeless ministry
Nursing home
Hospital
Crisis response team
Disaster relief
Vacation Bible School
Foster care organizations
Community clean-up projects

Serving shifts our focus from ourselves to others.

Creative Activities
Exercise the creativity God placed inside you.
Try:

Scrapbooking
Journaling
Writing poetry
Painting
Candle making
Soap making
Photography
Flower arranging
Quilting
Sewing
Crochet
Knitting
Jewelry making
Home decorating
DIY projects

Remember—you don't have to be perfect to enjoy creating.

Grow Spiritually
Some of the greatest adventures happen with God.
Spend time:

Reading Scripture
Memorizing verses
Prayer walking
Journaling prayers
Fasting
Listening to worship music
Reading Christian biographies
Listening to podcasts
Attending conferences
Going on mission trips
Starting a Bible study
Mentoring someone younger
Being mentored yourself

Colossians 3:16
"Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly..."

Fun Group Activities
Gather your friends!
Try:

Escape rooms
Bowling
Mini golf
Axe throwing
Cornhole tournaments
Karaoke night
Costume parties
Scavenger hunts
Progressive dinners
Progressive dessert nights
Christmas lights tour
Ugly sweater parties
Outdoor movie nights
Volleyball
Pickleball tournaments
Hiking clubs
Book clubs
Puzzle competitions
Food truck adventures
International dinner nights
Mystery road trips (everyone contributes one surprise stop)
Progressive coffee shop tours
Volunteer days followed by dinner together

The goal isn't merely entertainment. It's building community.

Enjoy Your Own Company
Many people fear being alone.
Instead, learn to enjoy it.
Take yourself to:

A movie
Lunch
Dinner
A concert
A museum
The beach
A coffee shop
A bookstore
A baseball game
A play
A local festival

Bring a book.
Bring your Bible.
Bring a journal.
Or simply enjoy being present.

Learning to enjoy your own company is one of the greatest gifts you'll ever give yourself.

Seasonal Fun
Don't let the calendar pass you by.
Spring

Wildflower walks
Garden tours
Kite flying
Strawberry picking

Summer

Swimming
Fireworks
Outdoor concerts
Baseball games
Water parks
Lake days

Fall

Apple picking
Pumpkin patches
Corn mazes
Bonfires
Hayrides

Winter

Ice skating
Christmas markets
Cookie baking
Christmas light tours
Sledding
Cozy game nights

Every season offers opportunities to make memories.

Don't Wait for Someday
One of my greatest concerns for singles is seeing them put off living until they meet "the one."

Please don't.

If marriage comes, wonderful.

If it doesn't, your life can still be incredibly rich, meaningful, adventurous, and full of purpose.

Don't wait to travel.
Don't wait to laugh.
Don't wait to serve.
Don't wait to build friendships.
Don't wait to make memories.
Life is happening today.

Jesus said in John 10:10:
"I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full."

That promise wasn't made only to married people.
It was made to you.
So get out there.
Take the trip.
Invite friends over.
Learn something new.
Volunteer.
Laugh often.
Serve generously.
And remember, some of life's greatest adventures begin with simply saying, "Yes, Lord... what's next?"

Final Thought
Being single isn't a waiting room—it's a season filled with opportunities to grow, serve, explore, and experience God's goodness in unique ways. Whether you're surrounded by friends or enjoying a quiet afternoon by yourself, choose to live intentionally. One day you'll look back and realize these weren't the years you were waiting for life to begin—they were some of the richest years of your life.

Ecclesiastes 3:12–13
"I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God."

©2026 TheSinglesNetwork.org • www.KrisSwiatochoMinistries.org • www.IntentionalRelationshipSolutions.org

Am I on the Right Path? Encouragement for Singles in Their 30’s.

by Kris Swiatocho, Director, The Singles Network Ministries

One of the most common questions singles in their 30s ask is:

“Am I on the right path?”

By this stage of life, many people imagined they would already be married, raising children, settled into a career, and living the life they envisioned in their twenties.

Instead, some find themselves facing unexpected turns, unanswered prayers, career changes, broken relationships, or simply wondering why life has not unfolded the way they expected.

It can feel as though everyone else is moving ahead while you remain stuck at the same intersection.

The Danger of Comparison
One of the quickest ways to lose peace is by comparing your journey to someone else's.

The Apostle Paul warns:
“When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.” (2 Corinthians 10:12, NIV)

Comparison convinces us that God is doing something for others that He has forgotten to do for us. But God does not write identical stories. His plans, timing, and purposes are unique for every person.

Joseph: A Man Who Seemed Off Course
If anyone appeared to be on the wrong path, it was Joseph.
As a young man, Joseph received dreams from God that pointed toward leadership and influence. Yet shortly afterward, he was betrayed by his brothers, sold into slavery, falsely accused, imprisoned, and forgotten.

Imagine Joseph sitting in prison wondering:

Did I hear God correctly?
Have I missed His will?
Is my life headed anywhere?

Yet years later, Joseph could look back and say:
“You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.” (Genesis 50:20, NIV)

What looked like detours were actually part of God's design.

Your Purpose Is Bigger Than Your Relationship Status
Many singles unknowingly tie their sense of purpose to marriage.

They think:

Once I get married, life will begin.
Once I find the right person, I'll know my purpose.
Once my future becomes clear, I'll feel fulfilled.

But God never intended marriage to define purpose. Jesus was single. Paul was single. Mary, Martha, Lazarus, and more.

Many of God's greatest servants were single during significant seasons of ministry.

Your purpose is not waiting for a spouse. Your purpose is found in walking faithfully with God today.

Jesus said:
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” (Matthew 6:33, NIV)

When You Don't Know What's Next
Sometimes the struggle is not singleness itself. It's uncertainty.

You may not know:

Whether to change careers.
Whether to move.
Whether to pursue a relationship.
Whether you're making the right decisions.

In those moments, God rarely gives us the entire map. Instead, He asks us to trust Him one step at a time.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” (Proverbs 3:5–6, NIV)

Notice that God promises direction, not necessarily details.
Questions to Ask Instead:

Rather than asking:
“Am I where I thought I would be?”
Try asking:

Am I growing closer to Christ?
Am I being faithful with what God has given me today?
Am I serving others?
Am I becoming the person God created me to be?

Success in God's Kingdom is measured by faithfulness, not timelines.

Your Story Isn't Finished
If you're in your 30s and wondering whether you're on the right path, remember this:

God is not limited by your age. He is not worried by your timeline. He is not surprised by your circumstances. The same God who guided Joseph through prison, Moses through the wilderness, and David through years of waiting is guiding you as well.

“Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 1:6, NIV)

You may not see the whole picture today, but God does.
Keep walking. Keep trusting. Keep serving.
And remember: what feels like a detour may actually be the road God is using to lead you exactly where He wants you to be.

© 2026 Kris Swiatocho Ministries; www.TheSinglesNetwork.org Ministries; www.IntentionalRelationshipSolutions.org