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Building your Singles Ministry/Personal Growth by Other Authors

Help My Unbelief by Michelle Eigemann

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"Immediately the father of the child cried out and said with tears "Lord, I believe; help my unbelief". 

​This prayer may be one of the most humble and honest prayers in scripture. A father is seeking deliverance for his son, and he's tried everything...twice. Doctors couldn't heal him; rest didn't help, medicine didn't even touch this boy's symptoms, even the disciples couldn't cast the demon out of this boy. This father is exhausted, confused, and out of options. Then he meets Jesus. Through tears, he begs for healing, restoration, and relief for his son yet admits that his heart holds some doubt...
 
I know you can do it, but can you do it for me? 
 
For years I've been where this father is, wrestling with the faith that tells me we serve a mighty and powerful God and doubting whether God will move my mountain, part my sea, or defeat my Goliath. I cry out, admitting I've been operating in my strength and begging for a breakthrough. 
 
When we read past verse 24, Jesus tells us why the disciples were unsuccessful in casting out the demon. "and he said to them, 'This kind can come out by nothing but prayer and fasting." 
 
For months I've been working on launching my adult son into an Alternative Family Living (AFL) home, and the process has been defeating. Doctors never returned my calls, paperwork got lost, necessary testing was postponed, and we even had one family back out at the last minute. I've prayed, begged, pleaded, and cried out to the Lord with little movement. Then I fasted. The power of fasting has no limits. It can break chains, heal wounds, and open doors that were previously closed. 
 
February 9th, after 40 days of prayer and fasting, we get our breakthrough. A door previously closed will be opened. A difficult and exhausting journey will shift into bright new possibilities. I doubt; my heart is mixed with equal parts of belief and unbelief as I write this. Yet I stand before my savior raw and real. I pray these simple three words, "help my unbelief," and then walk towards my breakthrough. 

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Michelle wears an array of hats on any given day, but her favorite is Daughter of the King. She lives in the beautiful mountains of North Carolina, where she works as a Child and Family Therapist. She has been a single mother for 18 years and loves to watch God take your most difficult struggles and transform them into passionate purpose. Today Michelle has joyfully embraced her passion for speaking truth into others' lives and assisting them in finding and living out their true identity in Christ. She believes that we need to uncover the lies and labels, identity the root, and replace it with God's truth.
Contact Michelle: meigemann0425@gmail.com


Re-Entry by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain

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The kids come bounding in the front door from a weekend away and almost immediately land themselves in trouble of some sort or, depending on your child, could just need downtime (away from us). Expectations are shattered, and feelings are hurt! Why does re-entry have to be so hard? Just ask retired NASA astronaut Ron Garan what he thinks about re-entry into Earth's atmosphere. As he puts it, it "is like going over Niagara Falls in a barrel, on fire, then crashing hard." He says it's the most violent thing he has ever experienced, and, as an F-16 fighter pilot, he has had to eject from his aircraft more than once.

The Apollo astronauts had very little to no control during re-entry. They had to be aimed just right, and then the trajectory was set. Loss of communication with mission control happens during blackout for about 4 minutes, and they became a fireball! Afterward, parachutes came out, and a rescue and recovery team met them upon landing.

Is the "fireball' what we see bolting through the front door heading straight for trouble? Like Mission Control, we hold our breath and hope that they re-enter safely, then we snap on our "Rescue & Recovery Team" vest to troubleshoot the situation:
  • Access the situation. Rescue and Recovery didn't know what they would find, and we don't always either. Will they need rest, are they hungry, did something upset them, or are they sad that the weekend is over? The one thing they need at this moment is felt safety. Kids are not good at articulating their feelings in words, so take your cues and expect them to need something, whether spiritually, emotionally, or physically. 

  • Recalibration (re-acclimate to gravity or change in environment) is when the kids need to re-acclimate to the house rules and family dynamics. Like most astronauts, they could be sad the mission is over BUT relieved to be back on planet Earth (or home base). Lots of emotions are unfolding in a multitude of different ways. Toss the expectations out when they first arrive home and give them their space to get re-adjusted. 

  • Debriefing is what happens after the fireball re-entry, blackout, rescue, and recovery. It's was not done immediately but soon enough that everything is still fresh on their minds. Expect to lead out in this. The kids will want to know what happened while they were gone. Maybe nothing happened...tell them, "You didn't miss much..." but let them know some things that you did while they were gone and how much they were missed.

Pack a bundle of scriptures that they can pull out of their duffle bag when they need them. Memorizing Proverbs 3:5 and Isaiah 41:10 are great starting points for all of us. And grab a copy of The Power of a Praying Parent by Stormie O'Martian for yourself to pray over them during their mission!  Will you get it right every time? No! But we are to persevere so that one day you can hear, "Mission Accomplished!". 

If we haven't met, I want you to know that I walked into this church alone with a five-year-old daughter and a two-month-old son. This church embraced me but bigger than that, the gospel and what God did in my life changed this ordinary girl forever! And I know He will do the same for you! He will! 
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Holly Crain
Single Parent Family Ministry Associate
Single Parent Family Ministry
Houston’s First Baptist Church — The Loop
Holly.Crain@HoustonsFirst.org
O: 713.957.7674
C: 832-247-4787
HoustonsFirst.org ​
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Kathy and I have had the pleasure of working with Kris of The Single Network Ministries at several events over the past three years. We always look forward to her insight and creative ways to connect with her audience sharing the Word of God with encouragement, humor and just being real. You will want to catch her for sure the next time she is in your area. Her sense of humor is a hoot and infectious.
—Kathy and Klay Watson,  Dating His Way Ministries

Leadership, General

  • Leadership Video with Cheryl Scanlan
  • Can Your Dream During COVID? By Cheryl Scanlan
  • Why Mentor a Fatherless Boy by Matt Haviland
  • The COVID-19 Portal by Cheryl Scanlan
  • The Psychology of Crisis by Dr. Henry Cloud
  • 8 Ways to Reach Singles Adults Through Your Church by Chuck Lawless
  • 6 Characteristics of a Healthy Singles Ministry by Alex Florea/Boundless.org
  • The Marks of a Spiritual Leader by John Piper
  • Toxic Environments by Cheryl Scanlan
  • Give Your Singles Space to Mingle by Justin Megna, Church Leaders, doc
  • 4 Critical Reminders about Singles in Your Congregation by Lifeway
  • Where do Singles Fit in the Church Family by Rick Hughes
  • Interference by Cheryl Scanlan​
  • Prove It To Me by Cheryl Scanlan​​
  • I'm Confused by Cheryl Scanlan
  • Singleness and New Converts by Tim Laitinen
  • Lost Identity by Holy Crain
  • Conflict Overview by Lisa Jackson
  • Person, Project or Problem by Cheryl Scanlan
  • The Value in Waiting After a Relationship Breakup by Vicki L. Olton
  • ​Influence and Authority by Cheryl Scanlan
  • You Are Here by Cheryl Scanlan
  • Acceptance with Joy by Pastor Jim Bouck
  • Enjoy Today by Pastor Jim Bouck
  • C3 Advantage Leadership Insights by Cheryl Scanlan
  • ​Leadership Development, Pastor Andy Jennings
  • Leadership Notebook by Pastor Don Munton
  • ​How To Solve the Problem of Single People in the Church by Vicky Legge, His Heart Ministry Training, AU
  • 10 Things I Learned About Christians When My Blog Post Went VIRAL  
  • 59% of Millennials Raised in Church Have Dropped Out--And They're Trying to Tell Us Why by Faith Hit
  • 3 Ways Leaders Cultivate Stability During Change by Cheryl Scanlan
  • Same-Sex Attraction/The Church by Brad Hambrick
  • 18 Myths Singles Believe by Perry Noble
  • Grace Place Celebrates 2nd Anniversary by Suzanne Adams, Singles Director
  • Singles Ministry UK by Chris Kelly
  • Top 10 Ways Churches Drive Away Their First Time Guest by Thom Rainer
  • Why Do Churches Treat Singleness Like a Problem? by Rachel Karmen
  • It's All In A Name by Keith Lowry, BGCT
  • What I Wish Pastors Knew About Divorce by Laura Petherbridge
  • My Step Child Hates Me by Laura Petherbridge
  • 10 Things All Singles Need to Know by Pastor James Patterson
  • What if You Had Someone in your ministry with ADD? by Allen White
  • 17 Tough Love Principles for Single and Married Couples by Dr. Dobson, Focus on the Family
  • 8 Values of Teamwork that Keep the Church Healthy by Rick Warren
  • Honoring Volunteers by Jennifer Maggio
  • Small Group Connection Idea
  • The Importances of Planning MInistry by Jennifer Maggio, The Life of a Single Mom
  • 10 Tips for Ministering to Singles by Dianne Davis​
  • Singles Ministry: The Missing Link in Family Ministry by Pastor Jesse Rincones
  • Marriage: Optional - Disposable – Re-definable? by Dennis Franck
  • Are Single People the Lepers of Today's Church by Gina Delfanzo
  • Why Singles Belong in Church Leadership by Lore Ferguson
  • Adult Children of Divorce by Linda Ransom Jacobs
  • The Fallacy of Singles Ministry and the Beauty of Biblical Obedience by John Gunter
  • Reaching Single Adults in a Married World by Dennis Franck, National Singles Director, Assemblies of God
  • A Single Friendly Church: 12 Steps to Growth by Christian Singles Mix, London, UK
  • Why Singles MInistry Isn't Growing by Bob Pierson
  • Never Start a Ministry (even Singles) Without a Minister
  • by Rick Warren
  • Pastors.com
  • Launching a Singles Ministry by Christianity Today 
  • Why Singles Ministry Isn't Easy by Tim Laitinen, Published by Crosswalk.com
  • 8 Principles for a Singles Ministry by Brian Mavis
  • What Happened to Singles Ministry by Adam Stadtmiller
  • Christianity Today
  • Numerous dating/relationship articles and video's by Brian Kluth
  • Singles in the Church: The Ghost Demographic by Tim Laitinen Crosswalk.com Contributing Writer
  • 10 Commandments of Dating
  • Being a Visionary for Your Ministry by Kevin Miller
  • 18 Myths Singles Believe by Pastor Perry Noble, NewSpring Church, Ocala, FL
  • 8 Single Principles for Starting a Singles Ministry by Brian Mavis, ChurchLeaders.com (doc)
  • The Great Disappearing Singles Ministry  by Tim Laitinen
  • Crosswalk Online Magazine (original publisher)
  • Churches Supporting the Unmarried by Rodd Kerr
  • Salisbury Post, Salisbury, NC
  • How to Serve the "Singles" by Carolyn McCulley (doc)
  • Why Pastors Fall into Sin by Jack Frost
  • Gays, Christians and Holiness by Tim Laitinen, Crosswalk.com Contributing Writer
  • Whither the Single Male Missionary? Tim Laitinen, Crosswalk.com Contributing Writer
  • SAM Long-term Master Plan Q&A by Bobb Biehl and Joseph Northcut
  • Steps to Financial Freedom for Single Parent by Lynne Thompson via Focus on the Family​
  • What Does a Married Pastor Have to Say to Singles? by Andrew Farmer, Sovereign Grace Ministries
  • Singles in the Church by Tim Laitenen
  • Young and Singles Ministry Articles by several authors in the Enrich Journal by National AOG
  • For Single Men and Women by John Piper
  • Alone in the Pew by Christianity Today
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Single Parenting

  • Re-Entry by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • 3 Things Single Parents Wish you Knew by Tessa Reed
  • How God Uses Single Parent Struggles by Robert Beeson
  • Just Nod by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain 
  • The Test by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • Transformed by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • The Little Things by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • Uprooted by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • Finding Rest by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • Discernment by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • Why Mentor a Fatherless Boy by Matt Haviland
  • Lost Keys by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • Courage to Continue by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • You're It by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • Hate/Love List of a Single Dad by Matt Haviland
  • He Leads Me by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • Traveling by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • Dating by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • Unnatural by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • Vacancy by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • Scars by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • ​Boundaries by Gail Showalter
  • Perseverance by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • Shielded by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • He's Not Here by Single Parent Director, Holly Crain
  • I'm Fine by Single Parent Leader, Holly Crain
  • Children and Divorce: Hassle Free Tips for Parents: by Joselyn Law Firm (secular article)
  • New Glasses by Holly Crain
  • Stress and the Single Parent by Dr. Kate Lynzega-Dean
  • Wrestling?! by Holly Crain
  • Heard by Holly Crain
  • Jennifer's Story by Holly Crain
  • 12 Vows Every Godly Fathers Should Make to His Family by Matt Haviland, A Father's Walk
  • Silent Intruder by Holly Crain
  • How to Overcome Fear as a Single Parent by Dawn Walker
  • ​A Single Mom Stepping Out in Faith in Foster Care by Rose Hoye
  • Three Strands by Holly Crain
  • Uturn by Holly Crain
  • 10 Things Divorced Dads Wish Their Exes Knew by Tammy Daughtry, Imom.com
  • The Letter by Holly Crain, Single Parent Director, FBC, Houston, TX 
  • My Everyday by Holly Crain, Single Parent Director, FBC, Houston, TX
  • Dynamics that Give Strength to a Single Parent Family by Pat Bishop
  • Where's the Remote Control by Holly Crain, Single Parent Director, FBC, Houston, TX
  • Complexity by Holly Crain, Single Parent Director, FBC, Houston, TX
  • Mentoring the Fatherless: Will the Men of God Please Rise Up? by Matt Havilland, A Father's Walk
  • One Bird Alone is like a Single Parent Alone
  • by Linda Jacobs
  • Single Parents and The Church by Pastor James Cruise
  • The Importances of Planning MInistry by Jennifer Maggio, The Life of a Single Mom
  • Wanted! Help for the Single Dad
  • by Matt Haviland, A Father's Walk
  • Why Financial Freedom is So Important for a Single Mom by Jennifer Maggio, The Life of a Single Mom
  • Amazing Grace of Loneliness 
  • by Gail Showater, SMORE for Women
  • Advocate or Adversary?
  • by Matt Haviland, A Father's Walk
  • The Perception of Single Fatherhood
  • by Matt Haviland, A Father's Walk
  • Single Parents Come in 3 Distinct Stages by Linda Jacobs, Healthy Loving Partnerships for our Kids
  • Why Should Your Church Have A Singles Father's Ministry
  • by Matt Haviland, A Father's Walk
  • Who are single parents and their families?
  • by James Cruise, James Cruise Ministries
  • Being the Example
  • by Matt Haviland, A Father's Walk Ministries
  • 3 Ways Single Parents Can Find Strength
  • by Jennifer Maggio
  • Crosswalk.com
  • Failures of Being a Single Father
  • by Matt Haviland
  • More Than a Conqueror, Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4
  • Overcoming the Everyday Challenges of Being a Single Father by Matt Haviland
  • How Can the Single Mom Do It? By Linda Weber, Family Life Today
  • Single Parent Ministry by Jennifer Wolf, About.com
  • 5 Reasons a Church Should Serve Single Moms by Jennifer Maggio, (doc)
  • Pastors.com (original publisher)
  • Is Bitterness Ruining Your Holidays by Linda Jacobs
  • Facing the Challenges of Single Parenting by Robert Jones

Personal Growth

  • Help my Unbelief by Michelle Eigemann
  • Wounded Warrior by Michelle Eigemann
  • Slipped Through My Hands by Michelle Eigemann
  • Searching by Michelle Eigemann
  • Who Do You Say I Am by Michelle Eigemann
  • A Journal We Will Never Forget by Braxton Critcher
  • Don't Get Through Singleness, Leverage It by Pastor J.D. Greer
  • Image Bearer by Michelle Eigemann
  • So You Think You Should Date by Damien Nash
  • How Christian Traits Affect Your Marriage by Nate Stevens
  • Caring for your Aging Parent by Rozanne Banicki
  • The Dating Games by Marshal Segel
  • Become the Healthiest Version of You by Cory Nichols
  • The Difference Between Stolen and Persuaded Hearts by Nate Stevens
  • Freedom in Christ by Cheryl Scanlan
  • 3 Decisions You Make to Become the Right One by Damien Nash​
  • Dating Advice for the 21st Century by Damien Nash
  • Red Flags in Dating Relationships by Ernest Jefferson, Jr.
  • Identity Theft by Lisa Jackson
  • Dating 101 by Lisa Jackson
  • Does Dating Prepare You Marriage or Divorce by Marshall Segal
  • Those Prayers He Doesn't Seem to Answer by Lisa Jackson
  • Encouragement by Lisa Jackson
  • Lonely or Empty? by Cindi Nobel
  • Anticipation by Lisa Jackson
  • You're The Mirror on the Wall by Cindi Nobel
  • Survival Tips by Laura Petheridge (via DivorceCare.org)
  • Enjoy Today by Pastor Jim Bouck
  • 10 Essentials for Christian Dating by Singles Pastor Jim Bouck
  • Singles & Self Care​ by Vicky Legge, His Heart Ministry Training, AU
  • ​10 ways to alienate and drive divorced/single again people away from your church​ by Vicky Legge, His Heart Ministry Training, AU
  • Financial Resources: Action Points, Steve Repak
  • I Have Never by Sharyn Kopf​
  • Live Out Loud Discipleship Series by Pastor Lester Rector, Faith Assemblies of God, Orlando, FL
  • The Place Where Pain Heals by Kevin DeVries
  • Date Night with Jesus by Andrea Best
  • Five Confessions of a Newly Married Wife by Ruth Clemence
  • Letting God of the Past by Melissa O'Connor
  • I Finally Got the Ring by Amanda Martin
  • Where are All the Men by Tim Laitinen
  • What is Anxiety? by Eddie Walker
  • Bruise Weeds and Weak Wicks by Tim Laitinen
  • How to Find the Right Mate by Lee Grady
  • Honor in the Friend Zone by Nate Stevens
  • Being Single on Valentines Day, posted by CBN.com
  • 9 Serious Questions Before You Get Married by Lee Grady
  • On Singleness: The Inclusive Love of God by Pastor Mark Comer
  • Do People See Jesus When They Look at Me by Nate Stevens
  • 7 Steps Towards Spiritual Fitness by Zane Reavis
  • Failure to Launch by Zane Reavis
  • Solving the Mystery of Marriage by Nate Stevens
  • Are you Important? by David Nobles, former singles pastor
  • Being Courageous in our Witness by Nate Stevens
  • Using Our Trials and Sufferings by Nate Stevens
  • What You Know and How You Know It by Nate Stevens
  • Trusting A Friend by Nate Stevens
  • Aging and Singleness by Margaret-Ann Howie
  • Desiring God, a ministry by John Piper
  • What to Look for in a Spiritual Mentor by Cliff Young, Crosswalk Contributing Writer 
  • Single in Christ: A Name Better Than Sons or Daughters Video/Outline by John Piper
  • Dying to Self by Author Unknown, Submitted by Dennis Franck
  • He Said-She Said: Stop Thinking About Finding a Mate by Laura MacCorkle and Cliff Young
  • The Challenges of Dating in Later Life by Shana Schutte
  • A View from the Cross-Road by Peggy Barnhill
  • Invisible Singles by David Briggs, Huffington Post Featured Writer
  • 7 Steps To Give For A Missions Presentation by Norm Howell
  • Forgiveness and Healing by Clayton Coates, Former Singles Pastor, Saddleback
  • An Unexpected Testimony by Pastor Mark Lindsay, Shadowbrook BC, Suwanee, GA
  • How to Recognize God's Voice by Pastor Kevin Club, Cape Carteret Baptist Church, Cape Carteret, NC
  • Tips for Publishing Your Own Work by Rich Hurst, McLean Bible Church
  • Lead a Life Worthy of Your Calling by Cliff Young
  • Maturity by Author Unknown, Submitted by Dennis Franck

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