My first engagement was to a man that I unfortunately lived with. I was young, not following the Lord. I fell head over heals in lust..I mean love. Well, I did love him eventually and then eventually I wouldn't. Love is never built on the flesh. Love is other focused and both (let's call him John) and I were in lust for at least the first year. Then we got engaged and well, the relationship started to suffer. Both of us had given our lives to Christ at one point in time in the past and both of us were not following Him. God continued to remind me of who I was. That He owned me and had paid a price for me. It would take another year but I would turn back to the Lord. To my Savior. My true love.
Fast forward ten years later to a must stronger, praise God Alleluia Christian and you will find yet another relationship that although God was in the middle of it unlike the last time, patience wasn't. Both (let's call him Bill) and I were on a fast tract of marriage. We both knew what we wanted, we were adults, we both loved God thought why wait. Wait for what? Well, as fast as we began our relationship we ended. Bill would end up not being the knight in shining armor I had been waiting for (that also loved the Lord with all his might). Bill would be living a double life. Something that if I had been "patient" I would have learned. If I had been patient, I would have seen. If I had waited on God, I would have never dated him.
So Valentines, it cost me. But you know what it cost me? My time. Time that I now get to tell others in my testimony of why we need to be equally yoked. Of why we need to wait on God. Of why we need to be friends first and learn to love from the inside out. The cost....it was worth it. Just like Christ, who suffered to forgive us of all our sins. It was worth it for him too. If there had only been one of us to save, he would have still died for us. Is your life costing you? For the sake of others?