So many pastors, so many whose hearts are called to minister to singles adults. I was encouraged, empowered and prayed for. We all left with a little extra energy to back to our churches, communities and keep up the fight.
One of our speakers, Pastor Randy Davis of Quail Springs Baptist Church (pictured second from the left) said something that was really powerful that I wanted to share. He told of a story about a well-known speaker who was a regular at a local singles event. On this particular date, the overall numbers were lower than normal. They were normal around 500 but instead, they were closer to 300. The first thing the speaker said when he approached the podium was "where are all the people." As you can imagine, you could have heard a pin drop. Sure, there were less people and most regulars knew this, but what about the new people who didn't know the difference. While 300 may have been a low number to this speaker, to most singles ministries that would have been a high number. Yes, the numbers had gone down but what this speaker didn't realize by stating this information, he put the focus on it being about numbers and he took the focus off of who was there (which was all that mattered).
So from that point on gossip started with who wasn't there versus who was there. That something must be wrong with the ministry. Maybe it was the leaders, maybe the topic, maybe the singles, maybe the....As pastor Randy would tell us... who cares. Don't get me wrong, yes, numbers do teach or show us a way to measure our ministries success. However, this comment could have been saved for a private discussion with the leadership. The numbers could have been how due to weather issues, another event close by that competed, a holiday weekend, etc. But because this speaker said it, he was saying something was wrong.
So bottom line, Pastor Randy wanted us to remember this. Instead of saying where where are all the people or we used to have this or do it this way, just focus on what you do have. Focus on the ones that did come, the ones that are serving, the way the ministry is now. Focus on what is in front of you. Remember, Psalm 119:105 Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path (not my yard sick).