I started to think about what they said. There is so many of us that are desperate to get married. Between E-harmony and Match.com, to bars, church, friends, and even Walmart, we are on this exhausted hunt for a spouse, While in pursuit though, we don't think about what we are going to give up. Sure, marriage can be wonderful, but the reality is things will change. Some things change for the better and some for the worse.
Until I had heard it from my friends mouths, I had never really thought of the fellowship they had given up. It wasn't that they planned to give it up or wished it away, it just stopped. Maybe it was the other priorities that were in their lives now, or maybe being a wife made it awkward to hang with the singles guys again or vice versa, maybe one didn't want to be without the other, etc.
When you are single (especially if you have a very involved singles group), you do run into friends at Walmart sparking a conversation that can last for hours in the parking lot. You do text each other to meet at the local coffee shop only to find other single friends already there. You do sit and listen to each others problems, sharing suggestions and prayer. When you are single, your community, your family is each other. This should not be taken too lightly. So for those of you wishing to be married as soon as possible (and for those counseling/leading singles), don't let them forget what they have by being single. Cherish where God has you til he moves you elsewhere. Value the friendships and connections you have now as more than likely they will change.
As far as my friends, they are slowly learning new ways to find fellowship. It's a little more difficult as you have to find couples verse singles but they are up to the challenge. It's not that they haven't kept some single friends now that they are married, its just the relationships have had to change. Even though them miss some of the old connections, God is providing new ways.
If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!
Kris Swiatocho, Director
2664 Timber Drive, Suite 307, Garner, NC 27529
The enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy but I have come to give life to its fullest. John 10:10