When I first saw the ad I started to laugh as I have a talk called "Wanna Get Hitched and Not to a Uhaul" in which I talk about how Walmart's in China and Germany (and the US), (on Friday nights) have a thing where you can put a red bow on your grocery cart and shop for man/woman. I go on to share of what kinds of things would you say to someone who had a red bow as well as what kinds of things would you have in your cart. The talk focuses on our motives while searching for the "one." How we are so desperate to find someone we would even shop at Walmart for them. So as you can imagine, when I saw this ad it reminded me of my talk. How crazy is was for Walmart to do this "hookup" program and how dangerous it could be. I mean, how would you know anything about this person? They could be a nut!
Anyway, but as I continued to look at the facebook ad some other things came to mind that took my laughter to disgust or perhaps sadness. We have now reach an all-time low. It's not the normal dating ads that say "hey, find the love of your life on hookmeup.com." It's shop for a man/woman. Shop???? Like going to the grocery store? Like looking at the labels to see what its made of, if the price is affordable, if the packaging is the way you like it? Like will it have a long shelf life, can I return it if I don't like it or if it doesn't perform? Hmmm, is that what I want someone to be thinking of me when they are looking for a date or mate? That I can be returned if I don't give them what they are expecting? Then on top of all of this, the top of the graphics says "adopt" a guy. Adopt??? What is that supposed to mean. Adopting like getting a kid? Why would I adopt a boyfriend?
Now don't get me wrong, I do think that when we are looking for a possible spouse we are in a way, reading the label (getting to know them and what they are about, are we aligned with our interest, emotionally, spiritually, etc...), checking the price (are we matched economically, what is our debt situation/how do we pay our bills), packaging (do they believe in the same way of living such as health, goals, dreams), etc. And yes, if we aren't equally yoked and God says no (because we took the time to ask before, and during the relationship) we can return. But return not like when you return moldy bread or a flat soda. Returned but hopefully in better shape then when you received because you both grew closer to God in knowing you weren't the right ones for each other. Returned to a friendship because you can. You didn't go so far in your dating relationship that you can't just be friends now. Returned so that the next step is smarter with more time as friends, more time to get to know them and yes, more time to pray about the choice you make.
So if you see this horrible ad on facebook, do like me and "x" it off. I am a woman in Christ and I am valuable, love and cherished by my Savior. I am not an object on a store shelf to be shopped for. I am already adopted by my King, my Lord and my Abba. If you want to find a spouse, my suggestion is draw closer to the only one that knows where they are..Jesus Christ.
...and since we have a great priest over the house of God,let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water. Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.
Kris Swiatocho, Director
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The enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy but I have come to give life to its fullest. John 10:10