Now, I know some of you may not believe a man should not lead a relationship/marriage but you need to go back and read your Bible. Leading in a marriage is not domination but an aspect of submission, of love and respect. Of course, its a team that works out things together. But at some point in time, when you may not agree, one has to submit to other out of respect and God has designed that as a man's role. And to be honest, I am glad as I would prefer it that way.
But let's not get away from the real point of this article. Whether you agree with me or not on man's role is not critical to me at this point as is the lack of men anywhere that are growing in their walk with the Lord. I see them missing everywhere. From the US to the UK to Uganda where all my ministries are located, it's an issue. For some reason the enemy has convinced our men that if they are not Superman, Mel Gibson in Braveheart, a King, etc. then they are of no value to anyone. And to be honest, how many men or women could do that kind of leadership. A leader doesn't get there alone. A great leader has a support network of others who help them get the job done. And every position is crucial to the success of life in Christ. As scripture talks about all the parts of the body and their role. And because men are not equipped by God for that particular role, they do nothing. So we have a handful of men leaders in the church and a ton of men doing nothing. While the women are all serving in various roles.
So, is this resource issues? A program issues? Are men not discipling other men? Well sometimes it is some of these things. Having a men's ministry or setting up mentoring programs are always valuable. Bringing men together to help each other, pray and educate/disciple it very important. But before any of this can work, we need prayer. Not just prayer for our felt needs but prayer to combat the real issue..spiritual warfare. I believe it's the core of the real problem. The enemy has lied, cheated, deceived, discouraged, distracted..well, the list goes on. Sure, he does this to women too but the enemy knows if he destroy's our men, he destroy's everything.
So, join me in prayer today to pray for our men...single and married...our churches, our ministries including young and singles ministries are all suffering from lack of healthy men. Make this something on your daily prayer list. Let's stand up against the enemies tactics and fight with the greatest power..the Holy Spirit. Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Note: I pray for our men by also asking them to do small things in our ministry. Things such as read the announcements, open in prayer (even if they have to read it), affirming positive behavior including the role (no matter how small) it is. I also tell women to stop, sit down, hush, and let me be men--give them back the role God has given them. Yes, it might take a while or they may do it differently but that's ok because in the end, we get healthy, growing men in Christ. And that will make world of difference for everyone.