1 Cor 7:17, 35? 17 But as God has distributed to each one, as the Lord has called each one, so let him walk... 35 And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction.
His struggle is he is feeling called to stay single and focus on the Lord only. Although at times his flesh is weak...here was my response...
"You are now in the same place as myself....I was about the same age (35) when I felt the strong calling of the Lord to focus on ministry...as much as I desired a mate, someone to be romantically involved with, etc...ministry became more and more my passion.
Now please know, God did make us flesh and there are times its hard. From TV to movies to friends who keep that temptation in front of me, I have to weigh things and ask myself if this is God saying I should be married or man? I still at times desire to be with someone but as time goes on, the joy of what God has in front of me wins out. I figure if getting married is that important, it would be on my mind everyday, every hour...that it would be something I would be working towards. But instead, I think of it ever so often.
I am so bless that I have guy friends that can fill some of that need of a "man" in my life. I can hang, have dinner, talk on the phone, etc...without the romantic part and all the drama. If and when God changes things, then I pray one of my close guy friends it the "one" but if not, I have some amazing guy friends. These guy friends have really been there for me.
So do I understand what you are going through? Yes! I think Paul by his comments would also agree. I think you need to serve the Lord completely and then allow the Lord to tell you the next step. As we draw closer to Christ, we will know what He wants of us...to be married or stay single. I am not sure God has called you to a life of singleness but He has called you to a life of being focused on Him. Most people focus on themselves and others and then squeeze in God.
Bottom line, you are feeling the draw of the Holy Spirit to be closer to God then ever. Because you have matured, you are not only feeling this draw but experiencing it. You know what God wants from all of us. You are actually being obedient.
So keep going, draw closer to God and He will give you your next step