THEY LIKE ME, THEY LIKE ME
I knew if people liked me then I was ok. I fit in. I was safe. I was cool. I was…well; you see how many "I's" are present. Due to my own insecurities (that started as a child), I needed, desired and thrived on being validated, being affirmed in all that I did (that I knew I was good at). Then one day, God said, "Kris, my daughter, does my death on the cross mean nothing to you? You are going to kill yourself by all you do to please everyone. Don't you know all you have to do is please me? I am the one who completes you, values you, validates you and affirms you. No matter what you do, someone isn't going to like you all the time or value what you do for them. Stop spending every day, every moment, every project and job, every relationship focused on you and start focusing on me." I was then, "Ok God, how do I do this?"
Well for me, I had to stop in everything I was doing and ask, is this enough? Would my friends, clients, vendors, etc. be satisfied with what I have done? Have I done my best? Will one more item on the table make any difference? Would one more icebreaker or funny joke help the talk? What if I had no music, no icebreakers, no video, would the message be enough. Is God enough? I can tell you in all seriousness this has been life-transforming. As I continued, I began to see my Spirit line up with my thoughts and my actions. I started to think of what pleased God and not other people. Now please don't get me wrong, we need to want and do all things in excellence as we are doing it for God. I do want to design a great logo or website for someone, I do want to speak well; I do want to do all my work with excellence but not to just to please the customer but more so to please my Savior. And if what I do doesn't please all that I work with, then so be it because my value IS NOT in stuff or other people's opinion of me.
So as I continued to listen to the broadcast, one of the ladies they interviewed mention how important it is to find a "Me Too" friend. That is someone you talk too about your junk and to find out he or she also has the same junk. This way you can hold each other accountable, praying and encouraging each other. This is what helps us grow to be more like Christ. We need each other..not to please but to lift up toward winning the prize in Christ Jesus.
Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
So next time you find yourself at the local craft store thinking, should I buy new placemats or drinking more coffee at 11pm, go to God and pray, "is what I have enough" then text your "Me Too" friend and say, guess what, it's enough.
Kris Swiatocho, Director
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