As a singles director/pastor you are constantly working. There is never a day off as the phone, emails and text messages (not to mention facebook and ichatting) continues to come in. Singles are always needing help whether its counseling, direction for their lives or just being a friend. You are continuously thinking of the future, how to lead people, how to plan events, and how to minister. It can be very exhausting.
So in the midst of ministering to others what do we need to remember? I found out this past week that not only is it OK to say no to some but its also OK to say never. There has to be boundaries for your own sake. You can not minister to everyone nor should you. You also need boundaries when it comes to being attack by the enemy. The enemy loves to use people in our lives to hurt us. I am sure most of you reading this have been the victim of the enemy in hurting others. We get tired, frustrated, stress and that is when the enemy hits both directions. This past week I realized the enemy was trying to destroy me, my confidence and my ministry but I stopped the attack by saying no to some people and never to others.
You see in ministry we have a tendency to think we have to be heroes. That we have to take all the junk the world hands us and somehow smile about it. We have to be thankful while having this big grin on our face. Yes, give me more because I am so strong and powerful. I can take it. Yea right! We think we have to be invinsible. Guess what? The only one invinsible is Jesus Christ. The only one strong enough is our Lord. The only one powerful enough is God. We dont' have to be a hero. Our strength is from Christ, not ourselves.
Yes, I don't like the trials but I know they are a good thing because it taught me to rely on the Lord more than ever. To go to Him with my problems. To go to Him with a need for His strength. To go to Him for protection from the enemy.
Thank you Lord that I don't have to be a hero.
Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. James 1:2-3