If you are single (or were), you have probably heard or read this scripture many times. This scripture was taught on by one of my leaders last night at Connect 4. While a lot of pastors will often read this scripture, with the hopes of encouraging single adults, I think it often only makes us feel worse. It only reminds us that 1) we are single and have no one and 2) we are now, due to have all this extra time on our hands should be closer to God.
But upon spending more time praying about what Paul was saying would eventually changed my perspective. This season of my singleness is a gift. This is a time in my life that will only be this way for a while. Not because I may or may not get married. But because life changes.
Right some of my nieces and nephews are still young. I have this short window before they will all be self-absorbed with their smartphones. Right now, I have time with my mother who lives with me. A season that will change as we both get older and our needs vary. Right now, I am able to minister where and when and how ever long. Again, a season that could change due to the economy, changes in need of my services, etc.
So I say all this to encourage singles out there. Yes, Paul did say as a single we can be more devoted to God with less distractions. And in theory that should work out. But to be honest, I think as a single with no children, we can become even more distracted. So because of this, we have to work harder to spend time with God. So what should we do with this scripture? How do we apply it to our lives? Paul is simply saying, this is a season we can be used by God to do amazing things with way more flexibility. So while you may wish to be married, don't miss what God is trying to show you right now. While most of us will be married, some of us will stay single. Don't miss this amazing time in your life.
Kris Swiatocho, Director
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