I recently read an article on a secular site about a single mom who was asked how she feels about celebrating "Father's Day" considering the father of her son was not in the picture. At first she shared how it didn't matter as she was her son's father and mother and it was working out just fine. That even if she wanted his dad in the picture, he didn't want to be. That he had moved on to a new wife and family. I could sense in her writing that she was saying what she thought we wanted to read versus how she really felt. That it, well, sucked. That it's hard raising a kid alone. That for now, because he is 3, not having a dad isn't a big deal but later, when he needs the guidance of a father, when he needs to see what a father, a man should be to a family, who will be his model? I know this young woman can not make her son's father be that dad anymore than I can wave a magic wand and have a husband show up for me. Well, she did say something towards then end about having some strong males in his life and well, that is the key to me. Even though some of us didn't have great dad's (I had a horrible biological and a wonderful step), some of our dad's have passed on (like mine) and some are here, the key is to have those men in our lives that will help nurture, encourage and model what it is to be a man, a friend, a husband and a father. So today, in honor of Father's Day, I say thank you to all the dad's who not only did the right thing in raising their kids but also to the dads who father someone else's kids. Also to the fathers who need to pick up the phone and call their kids...saying I am sorry and I want to be in your life. Thank you also for the single mom's out there trying to be both parents. Thanks to the grandparents and uncles and friends who have stepped in to provide that additional support. Happy Father's Day All!
I recently read and interesting article on yahoo on texting and the lost art of speaking. Although texting may be easier and another form of communication, it is growing shallow people in how they communicate, discuss, debate, share and so on. Texting may allow us to stay connected more often because its quick but the depth of our connecting is shallow. It's almost like tape...I can stick a stickie note to you and be connected but only when I use duct tape that I am so connected that it would hurt to disconnect. It does not hurt at all to remove a stickie note. So how do we fix this? Texting isn't going away right now. What can we do as adults, as the mentors and teachers of the next generation? How are we going to teach them to deal with difficult people and situations? How are we going to find a way to use the way THEY communicate to reach them? How are we going to help them to stay committed to God, to each other..for work, for marriage, for friendships and so on. If their lives are full of one sentence comments, then how are they going to go any deeper and get at the heart of issues. There isn't any foundation otherwise. So I would love to hear from you...to hear what you think? Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org