Quickly they started to share with me their testimony in regard to dating and eventual marriage. Kathy shared how she had come out of two divorces and needed time to develop friendships with men (versus dating them). She shared that God told her to not date for one year so that she could focus on growing her relationship with Him and others.
Klay on the other hand, was given a different task by the Lord. While he also wanted to continue to work on his friendships with women and his relationship with God, he was given 5 questions by his pastor to pray through. He was also challenged to discuss these questions with any woman he thought he wanted to date.
Wow, how cool is that? I wish more pastors got this involved with single adults prior to the engagement. Often, once singles are engaged, no counseling of any kind will make a difference. If they have a ring, a dress and a church, they get married even if red flags are all over the place. But to challenge you prior to even dating with some serious questions is a way to start the foundation right with the goal of a solid marriage to come.
So, what are the questions?
1. How would God be glorified if we were to pursue a relationship?
2. What were the issues that were your fault in the divorce? (Or Last relationship)
3. How did you deal with the issues that you were at fault in your marriages?
4. How do you see God using the relationship for his glory?
5. Could you still be content if God said no to this relationship?
Of course you could add many questions to this list include variations of them. The key here is to really be sure why you are wanting to date. To be sure of who you want to date is in the same place. And to always give it to God to lead and approve.
Thanks Klay and Kathy for your example of following God in your friendship, dating and eventual marriage. Oh, and one more thing, they both decided to wait and kiss on their wedding day. Only God could have done that!
Note: If you would like to connect with Klay or Kathy, email them at firstname.lastname@example.org.